How come many people in society believe they are entitled to so many things.
- A parking spot
- the door to be opened for me
- my restaurant reservation
- not to wait on lines
- for you to think like i do
- for you to go fast in your car so i may make the light
- for you to run the red light so i can make the light
- for you to be nice even when I am yelling at you
- for the bank teller to know what they are doing
- for you to not have any patience like i do
- for you to hurry up and make a decision on your mocha latte at Starbucks
- for you to not to take out coins to pay for your groceries
- for you to be considerate to my needs although i am not considerate to your needs
- Its all about me and what I want and nothing about you want.
Why do people get so wrapped up in how they believe people should react which causes a negative reaction to that person. People put expectations on other people. We tend to pre-judge which makes us less patient and angry at times when they do not meet our expectations. The prime example is in a car.
Why do people continually have road rage. So what I cut you off. Did I do this on purpose? No I did not see you there and I accidentally cut you off. You however, want to pull me out of the car and beat my head in all because i cost you 2 seconds.
That is what our society has become. We all have become impatient. Technology is not all good. It is mostly good, but people find ways to utilize technology in a negative way.
Why does everyone demand instant gratification. Why is twitter so successful because in 20 seconds or less I can look at all my tweets and see what is interesting to me. Consumers demand this and we demand this because we have become an impatient and quite arrogant society.
What can we do to change this? We have to change our overall process of thinking. I saw a tweet by @DalaiLama
"Rather than working only to acquire wealth, we need to focus on the welfare of humanity as a whole"
This says everything. We are so concerned with material things that we forget what really is important to us until those things we truly care about are taken away.
Changing your overall attitude towards people is so difficult. I would start by doing this and you will be amazed how much it changes you:
In the Jewish Faith there is something called "Lashon Hora" which basically means gossip. You are not supposed to talk about another person in an unfavorable manner if they are not present. Think about it. In theory it seems very easy, but count how many times you actually talk about someone else negatively? I know I do it a lot. I am making a conscious effort to not talk about anyone else. It is extremely difficult but should be done.
The problems that are caused by talking about someone in an unfavorable manner are that:
- it creates hatred towards someone else
- knowingly or unknowingly it changes your whole dynamic of your attitude
- It hurts people
- Creates problems between people
- Sign of bad character
I believe we can all learn from some of the oldest traditions and this may help people to be nicer to one another. Remember if someone is yelling and ranting bout something that is so little, maybe he or she experienced something during the day that has caused him or her to act that way.
David Serle
Vice President/Managing Broker
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